More than hot takes…

If you want to know why pastors are leaving ministry
There’s a lot of people to compassionately ask—but don’t do it the minute they are leaving maybe?
If the PCUSA wanted to do a study (which are are renowned for) we could, but a study is just the beginning of the work…

I personally asked around during Covid and 30-40 PCUSA pastors told me very personal, very heartfelt stories about why they were leaving ministry.

I carry them in my heart and pray for them a lot because I want them to be happy where they are 🙂 (I realize I should clarify this) and some of them need healing and some of them might come back but only a couple and only if it’s right. After almost every conversation I affirmed every person’s choice to leave, because of course they were doing the right thing for them.

And of course every SINGLE person had legitimate huge, really hard, personal reasons for leaving that made the choice really valid and really tough.

But maybe it doesn’t have to be this way.

Maybe it does. Maybe ministry is a dying profession no matter what.

However, if we wanted to change the way pastors are paid and supported we could. Pay and congregational support/treatment were the two most named reasons. (Status due to gender, race and sexuality were also huge).

I still am hoping we will. Because I bet it will help the church to change into the justice bearing entity the way it needs to be.

Either way, I’m glad we are starting the conversation.

A Prayer for the Pastors

Here’s a Prayer for the Pastors
All the Pastors
The ones who feel heard
and the ones who don’t

The ones who are ready to quit
and the ones who left years ago…quietly…without any recognition
Or maybe without apologies or healing
God knows your work and calls it good

Here’s a prayer for the pastors who were told suck it up buttercup
and the ones who are faithfully, quietly serving–without any fanfare or anything close to a living wage
May justice flood down like water

Here’s a prayer for the bivocational pastors
The stretched thin sandwich generation or parental parents
the disabled or otherwise doing too much pastors
the am-I-worthy-because-I’m working four things but none-of-them-technially-count-as-a-call pastors
May God bless all the kinds of your work

Here’s a prayer for the pastors–who know every situation is different
who won’t speak their hurt in public, because it crosses too many boundaries
But it’s there

And for the pastors–for whom, its less specific
It is just the quiet knowledge–that the profession is fading
and that if there was a will, things might be sustainable
..but everyone seems to instead wring their hands, and talk about the beloved buildings…and Sunday Schools that can no longer exist and sports on Sunday
May God hold you in the palm of God’s hand

Here’s a prayer for the pastors
who are trying to set boundaries
trying not to be caught up in all the things they could be doing
and trying to figure out what they should and shouldn’t be doing
Here’s a prayer for the juggling pastors
Jesus calls you to do what you can and also give you room to rest

Here’s a prayer for the pastor
Who is not Jesus, but is trying to serve
the faithful pastor who is trying to see both
the church as it is..and as it is forming to be
God bless you pastor
and God bless your people
May you have a good ministry
And may you stop when you need to
Here’s a prayer for all the unique pastors
Whoever you are, wherever you are

May you know that your ministry matters
Traditional, Nontraditional, Parish or Beyond
It all counts, I believe you are called by God,
By Name
And it all counts, and I am praying for you.

Amen.

Feel free to use/share/adapt with Credit to Pastor Katy Stenta at Katyandtheword

Narrative Lectionary: Year 2

Finding God

Sept 10th NL201
Garden of Eden
Genesis 2:4b-25
Mark 1:16-20
Mark 10:6-8

Sept 18th NL 202
Isaac Born to Sarah
Genesis 18:1-15; 21:1-7
Mark 10:27
Topical Prayer: God of Laughter

Sept 24th NL 203
Jacob Wrestles God
Genesis 32:[9-13], 22-30
Mark 14:32-36

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Finding God: Garden of Eden

Sept 10th NL201
Garden of Eden
Genesis 2:4b-25
Mark 1:16-20
Mark 10:6-8

Call to Worship:
God created us in companionship
God created us to be good
Come let us worship God the Creator
Come let us be in communion with God

Call to worship
We are God-breathed beings
It is good to dwell with God
We are called to be with God
Come let us spend some time with God together

Call to Confession: God calls us all to unburden everything to God, come let us give ourselves to the Divine.

Prayer of Confession: God, we come to you imperfect, but still your creation. When we feel alone or incomplete, walk with us we pray. Remind us that you still are there, calling our name, creating connections and companionship for us–walking with us wherever we go. We pray this in the name of Jesus Christ. Amen.

Assurance of Pardon: Hear the Good News, Jesus calls us to him again and again, therefore we know the truth. In Jesus Christ we are forgiven.

Prayer of the Day/Dedication: God, you created us, you breathed life into us, you have walked with us. Continue to remind us of your love, continue to remind us how you call us by name, each and every day as we walk into the world we pray. Amen.

Hymns: In the Garden, God Who Stretched the Spangled Heavens, God Created Heaven and Earth, I Sing the Mighty Power of God

Prayer for the Small Town

Here’s a Prayer for the small-town.

The first one I lived in, where no-one left
Except to join the military
And school was closed on the first day of hunting season
and where the disabled girl was welcomed in Brownies,
But we had to go to the nearest city to earn our diversity badge
Where the KKK marched, and all the churches protested–
and my parents explained “free speech” to me
while we read books about the Holocaust
where I learned the N-word from another 1st grader
but also did a report on “My Left Foot”
And everyone was worried
Because the last Coal mine was closing
and there were no jobs to be had
And where we had to leave, because they didn’t want a woman pastor
(in 1980s)
When my mom graduated from seminary

Here’s a prayer for the small town
where the schools were all integrated
and we were in the Bible-belt, and attended “that liberal church”
Where I had the most black friends
but a lot of people did not go into the “Black stores”
Where I was the only girl who joined the baseball team instead of the softball team–
did you know baseball got snow cones after every game, it was NOT FAIR
And all the boys won the leadership awards every year, never the girls
And all the girls joined cheerleaders and wore makeup by third grade…
Except me, and the Jehovah’s Witnesses,
who, it turned out, wished they could be cheerleaders anyway
Here’s a prayer for that small town

Here’s a prayer for the NorthEastern Small Town
Where everyone made fun of me
when I said “Yes Ma’am” the first day of school
And never bothered to find out that I only lived down South for 3 years
Rich and Stuck up, no one had time for me
In their small, elite classes, in the small elite school
Drinking every weekend, Worried about who was in and out
The teachers even knew who was cool and who wasn’t
Everyone walked to school
but the people of color pretty much sat together
and there were still lines between the poorer and richer students
Here’s a prayer for that small town where status was everything

Here’s a prayer for the small town, where my husband went to college
And I lived for a year, where Obama said guns and God
And he and I laughed and laughed, because it was so true
Where I attended a small church on the same lawn of another small church
Of the SAME denomination
Where I worked two almost full time jobs, lived at the library, and never saw the sun–and was probably the strangest person in town, because every other adult who was weird moved away.
Here’s a prayer for that small town.

I’ve lived in every kind of small town–
Where the gossip was if your laundry was up all night
Where the whole village turned out to find my sister–
Who had been thankfully asleep in the garage the whole time
Where everyone knew who was mistreating who, and still it wasn’t fixed.
I’ve lived in places where the friendliness is real,
where it’s ok to talk to everyone, and that’s a kind of relief.
I’ve lived where religion is a second language,
and church is your second home.
I’ve lived in the small towns that are in the middle of nowhere,
and the ones next to cities,
I pray for all of them, because they are all over, and so important.
I pray for the small towns. Because it’s hard, in a small town, sometimes,
to try things
And yet so much of the Bible is God calling people
out of small towns
to try things
–so I pray for those small towns.

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More things I’m finding along the way (Under Construction, I will add onto this as I find things that strike me)

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The Breath Prayer written by Sheridan Voysey Lord God, Fill me with your Holy Spirit. I receive your love & release my insecurity. I receive your joy& release my unhappiness. I receive your peace & release my anxiety. I receive your patience & release my impulsiveness. I receive your kindness & release my indifference. I receive your goodness & release my ungodliness. I receive your faithfulness & release my disloyalty. I receive you gentleness & receive my severity. I receive your self-control & release my self-control.*

*Some of these breath prayers are very Christian or too severe or ableist. I would be very careful before I gave these to an entire group. However they are good for ideas, and might be ok to be given as a choice with the gentle caveat that they are just ideas and do not fit everyone.

There is no end to what a living world will demand of you –Octavia Butler @BlackLiturgies author is Cole Arthur Riley who also wrote “This Here Flesh” Sermon Series (Which you may recall is a sister series to this one)

Inhale: The demand is too great Exhale: I deserve to stay whole @BlackLiturgies

Inhale: My “no” is sacred. Exhale: I can honor its Sound @BlackLiturgies

Meditate & Reflect: How does your body feel today?What practice brings you renewal? Who in your community is protective of your body and its needs? What dominant fear keeps you from saying “no'”? Explore its origins. What demands are you making of others that you can release?

@joynessthebrave This is your gentle reminder that one time in the Bible Elijah was like “god, I’m so mad! I want to die! so God said “Here’s some food. Why don’t you have a nap?” So Elijah slept, ate, & decided things weren’t so bad. Never understimate the spiritual power of a nap & a snack.
(This is one of my all time favorites)

“May we learn to honor the hammock, the siesta, the nap, and the pause in all its forms.” Alice Walker

Sermon Series

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