Do You Find It Easy to Forgive?

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Two of the roughest weeks of my life culminated in returning to the pulpit on the 10th Anniversary of 9/11.  Honestly, I didn’t feel like I had much to say to anyone about anything.  I was exhausted both physically and emotionally.  But there I was and it was time to start
putting one foot in front of the other and get back to living.

The gospel lesson for the day was Matthew 18: 21-35.  It is about forgiveness.  In it Peter pipes up to ask Jesus another question.  How many times are we supposed to forgive someone?  The clear implication is that we should
forgive them more than once.  Maybe the disciples had been discussing this among themselves and finally decided to send Peter to get a definitive answer on just how many times was enough.  So Peter asks how many times we should forgive.  Then he throws in a…

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Unity, Prayer, Sharing

Lord Hear Our Prayer

We are one in the Spirit, We are one in the Lord, We are one in the Spirit, We are one in the Lord

and we pray that all unity will one day be restored

Book Review: Written in Red by Anne Bishop

And for a fantasy take on suffering, I tend to turn back the “theology” of Anne Bishop (be warned: she deals a lot with the issue of abuse)

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If you like stories about fragile females, who actually end up being not so fragile, with willing males to simulatenously take care of them even as they serve them, then Anne Bishop is your feminist.

The plotline is basically the same as her other 3 series (Black Jewels<–first and favorite, Belladonna and Bridge of Dreams<–not really a fan of this one).

Despite the plotline and characters getting to be (more than) predictable, Anne Bishop creates awesome worlds where magic is both feared and utilized in unexpected ways.

I like the plotline, so I don’t mind it being that repetitive, however I think that in her most developed world (Black Jewels) the books about side characters start to get away from the tired plotline, so its still my favorite. Plus this is not a common plotline elsewhere, so although its the same tune from Bishop over and over again I do…

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Dignity in Differences: Why The Church Needs Suey and Rachel

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I went to bed early one night. After a meeting with church members who are signing up to walk with students at the university. After discussion about what it means to be present in the lives of students we know and those who are strangers to us. What it means to show we care about their lives.

I missed my favorite Tuesday night activity – a Google hangout with passionate, earnest, loving people who want more for God’s church.

And I woke up in the middle of the night to a Twitter storm. And at the middle of this hurricane was Suey Park and Rachel Held Evans. I felt torn. Because I’ve been blessed and inspired by both.

We need both. We need both because:

We need the conviction that Suey gives the church. 

Suey has gone through the ringer (understatement) when it comes to her history with church and specific Christian…

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Poem by Naomi Shihab Nye: HOPE

After learning my flight was detained 4 hours,
I heard the announcement:
If anyone in the vicinity of gate 4-A understands any Arabic,
Please come to the gate immediately.

Well—one pauses these days. Gate 4-A was my own gate. I went there.
An older woman in full traditional Palestinian dress,
Just like my grandma wore, was crumpled to the floor, wailing loudly.
Help, said the flight service person. Talk to her. What is her
Problem? we told her the flight was going to be four hours late and she
Did this.

I put my arm around her and spoke to her haltingly.
Shu dow-a, shu- biduck habibti, stani stani schway, min fadlick,
Sho bit se-wee?

The minute she heard any words she knew—however poorly used—
She stopped crying.

She thought our flight had been canceled entirely.
She needed to be in El Paso for some major medical treatment the
Following day. I said no, no, we’re fine, you’ll get there, just late,

Who is picking you up? Let’s call him and tell him.
We called her son and I spoke with him in English.
I told him I would stay with his mother till we got on the plane and
Would ride next to her—Southwest.

She talked to him. Then we called her other sons just for the fun of it.

Then we called my dad and he and she spoke for a while in Arabic and
Found out of course they had ten shared friends.

Then I thought just for the heck of it why not call some Palestinian
Poets I know and let them chat with her. This all took up about 2 hours.

She was laughing a lot by then. Telling about her life. Answering
Questions.

She had pulled a sack of homemade mamool cookies—little powdered
Sugar crumbly mounds stuffed with dates and nuts—out of her bag—
And was offering them to all the women at the gate.

To my amazement, not a single woman declined one. It was like a
Sacrament. The traveler from Argentina, the traveler from California,
The lovely woman from Laredo—we were all covered with the same
Powdered sugar. And smiling. There are no better cookies.

And then the airline broke out the free beverages from huge coolers—
Non-alcoholic—and the two little girls for our flight, one African
American, one Mexican American—ran around serving us all apple juice
And lemonade and they were covered with powdered sugar too.

And I noticed my new best friend—by now we were holding hands—
Had a potted plant poking out of her bag, some medicinal thing,

With green furry leaves. Such an old country traveling tradition. Always
Carry a plant. Always stay rooted to somewhere.

And I looked around that gate of late and weary ones and thought,
This is the world I want to live in. The shared world.

Not a single person in this gate—once the crying of confusion stopped
—has seemed apprehensive about any other person.

They took the cookies. I wanted to hug all those other women too.
This can still happen anywhere.

Not everything is lost.

Naomi Shihab Nye (b. 1952), “Wandering Around an Albuquerque Airport Terminal.” I think this poem may be making the rounds, this week, but that’s as it should be.

Theology of Hiring

My gut is that the church should be hiring a ton more people.

I know, I know we are poor, yada, yada, yada….

We can give all the same reasons as everyone else NOT to hire people (we are poor, we have less people in demand of our product, we are in decline, our finances are not robust, our market is smaller)

But I think its exactly when we are failing we should be hiring, I think that when no one else is hiring its up to us to come up with creative ways to employ people.

Ok, not everyone can hold down a job and not everyone can be the strange combo of structured yet flexible that church work requires…

But I am less worried about the “reasons we can’t” hire people and more interested in the Theology of why we should be hiring people

This month I have had the privelage (and headache) of hiring about 5 people….

Yay!!! Ok the hrs aren’t a lot (ranging from a few hrs a week to 30hrs a week)

but here are the good parts

I think that in order to work with and from an abundance economy we need to look at growing our church support and skill set–if volunteers aren’t available, maybe we should consider hiring (many choirs already hire choir members).

I think that when you have people on staff, then the church serves as an employer challenging their theology of justice, causing them to look at policies and the reality of people who need jobs and how to cultivate and support good workers

I know a lot of churches can take advantage of their workers, but the good news is WE DON”T HAVE TO. We are not in the business of business, it IS personal (not business) and our GOAL IS NOT THE BOTTOM LINE! We can create a work environment that create better workers, more stable environment and a way for the congregation to invest in people in a quantitative and qualitative way.

Also, I feel like (As Alice Mann discusses in her books Raising the Roof, etc.) you can’t grow if you don’t have the staff you need to support growth

Here’s Some of what my church is doing…We are expanding our staff, every single year. (yes we are working with a trust)….but I think even if we didn’t have a trust I would be pushing to hire (oh and when you do have a trust you should ESPECIALLY be looking to hire)

We are not limited by volunteers, as much, my congregation is not equipped to do media, we should hire a media person…no financial mind, hire a financial consultant. Neither of these are a lot of hrs…but they are of TREMENDOUS help for us, and is hopefully helping out the employee

we offer vacation and sick time-2 weeks worth of each, paid. If you only work 10hrs a week you only get 10hrs a week, but we are aware that 4 days off is not a lot for a quarter time person, and that you might need that time to be a better worker

Your hrs are guaranteed…I work hard to make sure the hrs we promised you are actually the hrs you can work so you have a dependable pay check….

You have clear hours! If you have other obligations in your life–such as family or a second job we try hard not fuss around with your schedule, it is not shift work

Your time includes flexible hrs…most of our employs have some salaried time that I assume they are working, the secretary gets 5 hrs….the head teacher gets 5hrs…the assumption is, you are working those hrs at home for all those last min, things you can’t really do at the office (or maybe don’t want to do at the office). If you can be more time efficient, great! As long as your getting your work done, we are not going to be chintzy about it.

The handbook spells out things: Like dress code, sex abuse code, retirement and family leave…all of which is to help you feel secure.

We do Cost of Living Increases, seriously consider raises for continuing staff and if you are working more than your stated hrs we try to increase your paid time!

So yeah, every single person at the church is part time but me…but my church now has 8 people (besides myself) who we are teaming up with, providing references, and are employing….

Here’s a challenge, can your church hire more staff? Can they build a staff that is more open and hire lots of people part time for specialized skills instead of depending on the Office (i.e the Pastor or the pastor + secretary) to do it alone?